"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."
~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
As I think about the news about the horrific shooting in Orlando, my heart is heavy.
It is heavy with grief at the loss of life and the sorrow of those left [...]
"The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel."
~ Stephen Furtick
Yesterday I wrote about comparing yourself as a surefire path to misery. Today I want to shine a light on one more reason the comparison game is so [...]
Want a surefire recipe for making your life miserable? It's easy, it's natural, and you're probably already doing it.
What is it?
Compare yourself to others.
Compare yourself to what other people think you should be, or do, or achieve.
Compare yourself to what you think your life [...]
When I talk with people about self-compassion, it continues to amaze me how often people ask, "What is that?"
That's not a reflection of any ignorance on the part of the person asking the question. It's a reflection of how foreign the idea is to the culture we're all swimming in.
To varying [...]
When it comes to changing your life for the better, big, dramatic leaps get all the press. But if that's all you're relying on to improve your life, you're stacking the odds against you.
Here's a fresh dose of reality. Most change that sticks doesn't tend to be the giant leap variety. It comes[...]
Are you blocking positive change in your life by thinking too big?
I don't mean thinking too big in terms of dreams and aspirations. I'm talking about the scale of change you think is necessary to improve your life.
Over the last fifteen years of helping people feel more energized and alive, I have[...]
Do you ever have one of those experiences where some total stranger pushes your button, and you work yourself up into a lather about what a complete jerk they are? And then later, with the objectivity of hindsight, you realize that maybe the problem wasn't so much them, but your story about them?
What if there were a simple technique you could use that research has shown improves your state of mind? And what if that technique took no time to master? Even better, what if you had already been doing it all your life?
It's called smiling!
It's no news that we smile because we feel [...]
One of the biggest happiness-crushing mistakes I see people make can be boiled down to four little words:
"I'll be happy when..."
I'll be happy when I find the perfect job. I'll be happy when I have more money. I'll be happy when my spouse communicates better. I'll be happy when I lose ten [...]
When you feel stressed - maybe at work, maybe in your life overall - it's easy to feel overwhelmed and like there's nothing you can do to change it.
When clients come to me for career change work, they typically have steam coming out their ears, feeling frustrated and stressed. They want to [...]